tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post8200046812499351903..comments2023-06-10T12:33:38.632+01:00Comments on PEOPLE DON'T EAT ENOUGH FUDGE: Where To Start ...Sarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04402703967636964187noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-27959255532069691932017-05-09T08:43:23.900+01:002017-05-09T08:43:23.900+01:00Thanks Holly, it's shocking how many people ha...Thanks Holly, it's shocking how many people have had experience of similar people, I'd like to think there weren't so many of them out there!<br /><br />Thanks Sarn, it's a huge help to talk it out here and to have the support. I said before that I'd hoped he would just evaporate or something - I mean pretty much what you said. Society would be a better place without him. Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04402703967636964187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-22867408162340004672017-05-08T09:57:20.100+01:002017-05-08T09:57:20.100+01:00Hi Sarah
Get it all off your chest mate. Your loy...Hi Sarah<br /><br />Get it all off your chest mate. Your loyal blog readers will be here for you.<br /><br />I have not been in your shoes, but I do <b>totally</b> sympathise with you. Monsters like ExLax need shooting. Too harsh? I don't think so! What good is he to society? He should NOT be allowed to get away with this.<br /><br />Big hugs,<br />Sarn xxxSarnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12174058971522723860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-14576301551124533582017-05-07T20:22:03.016+01:002017-05-07T20:22:03.016+01:00He sounds so very like my ex - the guy I had a hou...He sounds so very like my ex - the guy I had a house with before Luke. I don't miss him. So much worse when. A child is involved. Don't feel you have to justify yourself! It is cathartic to write about things though I think. Mommy Stockleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10298031778656512596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-41416674104024301502017-05-06T08:18:22.421+01:002017-05-06T08:18:22.421+01:00You are quite right Joe. The house was a pre-exis...You are quite right Joe. The house was a pre-existing asset and that will be part of my argument. So will the fact that I have made every single mortgage payment entirely by myself. There is also the the more than 7 year period since we split when he has mad no financial contribution to consider. But this is something I have to argue. The law for divorce starts at the point of equality. His is named as a joint owner. Courts are reluctant to give a departure from equality however ridiculous it is in this case to say that things are equal.<br /><br />Ex Lax will not, at this point, have been open and honest with his solicitor. He will be totally convinced that he is entitled to everything he asks for. He is driven by greed, self entitlement and a desire (for whatever reason) to destroy me.<br /><br />He is also almost certainly lying about anything he thinks can't be proved and being funded by his latest girlfriend. This is what he does. I have no doubt that were is relevant to obtain statement from the 5 or 6 girlfriends/fiance's he has had since our split then they would all support me.<br /><br />I will fight this believe me.<br /><br />Hey Di, I don't think this is a strategy on Ex lax's part, that's far to clever for him. He has convinced himself this is perfectly fair. I have no doubt that were he tested it would show that he is a sociopath (and I don't say that lightly). He has always been able to twist things in his own head to make himself the victim. No doubt he is saying that he has been deprived of his asset for many years. He has certainly told the mediator that he held off divorcing me until the children were adults because he wanted them to have a stable home (much more on this later). He conveiniently forgets that I am divorcing him and he tried to blackmail me into not doing it (I have NO idea why) and that this is the 3rd time I've started the process.<br /><br />Would you lie me to add the cost of having your hair professionally coloured to my claim lovely? I have a horrible feeling you may keep finding more and more grey hairs as this story unfolds and it seems only fair :-) xxx<br /><br />If only you were the judge Val! I think my case should be very straight forward and, if it were based on right and wrong and justice then it would be. I wish that was the way the law worked ...Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04402703967636964187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-32738536184312596092017-05-06T00:04:43.503+01:002017-05-06T00:04:43.503+01:00Hang in there! You lay out your case very well.Hang in there! You lay out your case very well.Valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13025832536749983018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-21577871456198691462017-05-05T16:26:59.436+01:002017-05-05T16:26:59.436+01:00Hi Sarah! I swear I'm going more white haired ...Hi Sarah! I swear I'm going more white haired than ever here as this unfolds! What Joeh says above really makes sense - it's only fair that you should be given credit for the pre existing equity at the very, very least. Probably more, to cover the time you've subsequently maintained the property whilst values have risen. Not to mention the fact that you were probably carrying him financially whilst he lived in the house anyway.<br /><br />And Joeh makes another very valid point r. the inflated claim. It's very much like bartering in the Far East - the 'seller' names a ridiculous amount, because you can always negotiate downwards with the other party but not upwards. It's a game of bluff really, and I hadn't stopped to think of that being the strategy of Ex Lax. Joeh speaks a load of sense kiddo! I also echo what he says - hang in and hold on - and sign absolutely nothing! You need some good legal advice really. A shot across the Jolly Ship Ex Lax might be what's needed. Too much at stake!<br /><br />Hops down from soap box and runs to check for more white hairs!!<br /><br />Hugs<br /><br />Di xxDihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06153667791623954306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-77185954474811516142017-05-05T15:36:58.354+01:002017-05-05T15:36:58.354+01:00In my second divorce I was given credit for equity...In my second divorce I was given credit for equity in the house that I brought into the marriage and the portion of my retirement (401K) that was prior to the marriage. I had to split the rest of which she contributed nothing financially, but not all that unfair. If you have to give up 50% of your house would be a travesty.<br /><br />Often these requests are boosted beyond belief for negotiation purposes and are lawyer induced. Hang in and hold on.joehhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08520161706680568508noreply@blogger.com