tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post2243863491297198674..comments2023-06-10T12:33:38.632+01:00Comments on PEOPLE DON'T EAT ENOUGH FUDGE: How Does It Happen?Sarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04402703967636964187noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-91204806366684953362017-05-24T08:32:37.025+01:002017-05-24T08:32:37.025+01:00Oh Sarah. He needs to understand the impact of wha...Oh Sarah. He needs to understand the impact of what he did. I hate him. I can only imagine how you feel.Mommy Stockleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10298031778656512596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-18347402712348011942017-05-19T12:35:03.986+01:002017-05-19T12:35:03.986+01:00I hope so Mitch, I really do. I wish I'd had ...I hope so Mitch, I really do. I wish I'd had the courage to do something when the children were much younger. I worry that Master Mac has been so heavily influenced by his father and still continues to be that's he's actually forgotten the real me. I will always live in hope that we can mend things, maybe one day we will.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04402703967636964187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-5051266001902736502017-05-18T20:53:25.666+01:002017-05-18T20:53:25.666+01:00I've been a legal secretary for like 8 years a...I've been a legal secretary for like 8 years and every time I see situations like this, it makes me really consider disappearing into the wilderness and never dealing with people ever again. We do get some very nasty ladies every now and then, but the vast majority of our family cases involve scumbag fathers. <br /><br />I hope you and your son can have a close relationship again. In my experience, kids aged 10 - 15 tend to take their parents' divorces the hardest, and the effects can last a lot longer than if they were a few years younger or older. Time is the best healer. <3 Michhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12456803425068822920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-43834350827310082282017-05-16T08:50:36.119+01:002017-05-16T08:50:36.119+01:00Well said K ;-) xxWell said K ;-) xxSarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04402703967636964187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-29755137476552661122017-05-15T21:10:09.645+01:002017-05-15T21:10:09.645+01:00See you next Tuesday. See you next Tuesday. AGuidingLifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05823333742737762759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-53447476729353316782017-05-13T09:53:54.380+01:002017-05-13T09:53:54.380+01:00Thanks Di xxThanks Di xxSarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04402703967636964187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-90662112345327478772017-05-13T09:17:57.191+01:002017-05-13T09:17:57.191+01:00Oh Sarah, words fail me! Sending a big hug.
Di xx...Oh Sarah, words fail me! Sending a big hug.<br /><br />Di xxDihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06153667791623954306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-80232068567553163412017-05-13T08:11:12.901+01:002017-05-13T08:11:12.901+01:00I understand that absolutely Joe. It's insidi...I understand that absolutely Joe. It's insidious and you don't even see it happening. I think it's far more apparent to others than to yourself. There was plenty of guilt and fear in our relationship and it's certainly how he managed to use my children to get what he wanted. I think Master Mac is still at the stage where deep down he probably knows but he can't acknowledge it. I know I was there for a very long time. Now I am able to say it too. I was in an abusive relationship. Ex Lax was (and continues to be) an abuser.<br /><br />I know Val, I know. It breaks my heart still to see those photos and remember his pain. I wasn't even looking to blame at the time, I just wanted acknowledgement. I wanted him to care, to say he was sorry. I never got it. He even got Master Mac to say it was his own fault.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04402703967636964187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-25804977912966893622017-05-12T22:31:30.912+01:002017-05-12T22:31:30.912+01:00The thought of that burn makes me hot under the co...The thought of that burn makes me hot under the collar! Being a man is not an excuse for being an idiot. It's not like sunscreen is a secret.Valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13025832536749983018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-25595023134673358262017-05-12T18:32:22.919+01:002017-05-12T18:32:22.919+01:00It was not until I was out of my last marriage th...It was not until I was out of my last marriage that I realized it was an abusive relationship. Even the way she left was abusive. Defective people learn how to control by guilt, and sometimes fear. They learn early and use it well.<br /><br />It wasn't until looking back that I said to myself, "Holy Shit, I was in an abusive relationship." Lucky for me she moved on. Then she used my son to get her way on little stuff. At some point I just refused to have anything to do with her at all. My son is old enough, I can communicate direct with him.<br /><br />I suspect ex-lax is using guilt and or fear to keep your son from having a relationship with you, as a way to get back at you for not continuing to allow him to abuse you (yes, abusers get angry when they lose any control and they never blame themselves.) <br /><br />The day will come when he sees the light and realizes who is good in his life, and who is toxic. joehhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08520161706680568508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-61094287792880987882017-05-12T17:29:52.573+01:002017-05-12T17:29:52.573+01:00Hi Sian, thank you for stopping by (how I wish it ...Hi Sian, thank you for stopping by (how I wish it were one of my funnier posts - my recent posts are huge departure from the things I normally blog about ...).<br /><br />I can't explain why he behaves the way he does. I can only assume that he has some deep seated, very serious issues. What else could explain it?<br /><br />I'm not so strong or brave but I am stronger and braver than I was and hopefully that will be enough.<br /><br />Where am I now? Well, I've blogged a little about it and the where I am now is why I'm blogging any of this - because I haven't spoken about it before, because I think it needs to be said. Because, maybe if I blog about it I can make some kind of sense out of it all. I don't really know.<br /><br />Thank you for you kind thoughts lovely xxSarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04402703967636964187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-56617654777044893972017-05-12T17:07:25.365+01:002017-05-12T17:07:25.365+01:00Hi Sarah. I've had to read this twice, the sec...Hi Sarah. I've had to read this twice, the second time more slowly, because I was convinced I must have missed something out, something that might help explain why ExLax behaved the way he did. It really is appalling, especially the neglect. You're obviously amazingly strong though. And brave. I don't know where you're at with it now, but I hope things are at least a little more manageable. Thinking of you. <br /><br />Sian (Flossing the Cat) xxFlossing the Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16298951261351587626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-2985266724614067772017-05-12T09:54:37.608+01:002017-05-12T09:54:37.608+01:00Thanks Sarn, it may come to that ;-). I don't...Thanks Sarn, it may come to that ;-). I don't have words to express how all of this made me feel. All I can do is say how it was, give the facts as I see them. It was a terrible time and it's hard to believe how much worse it became. xxxSarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04402703967636964187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-26720105731277441072017-05-12T09:38:42.036+01:002017-05-12T09:38:42.036+01:00Words fail me Sarah, and the ones going through my...Words fail me Sarah, and the ones going through my head regarding ExLax simply can't be printed. I stand by by offer to man the Howitzer. <br /><br />Hugs, Sarn xxxSarnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12174058971522723860noreply@blogger.com