tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post2510637602590562156..comments2023-06-10T12:33:38.632+01:00Comments on PEOPLE DON'T EAT ENOUGH FUDGE: BDDSarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04402703967636964187noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-27836369005019126402011-11-30T22:59:35.248+00:002011-11-30T22:59:35.248+00:00Damn Lou, you have me in tears when I didn't t...Damn Lou, you have me in tears when I didn't think there were any left!<br /><br />It's ok though, they aren't the bad kind :)<br /><br />I value our friendship so very much too and I'm amazed that you have had anytime at all to do any reading given how hectic your life is right now!<br /><br />Thank you for .. well, for everything xxxSarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04402703967636964187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-63869241959950971942011-11-30T22:27:46.313+00:002011-11-30T22:27:46.313+00:00Sarah
I have only just seen this post, so please ...Sarah<br /><br />I have only just seen this post, so please don't think that I had read it and chosen not to comment.<br /><br />It is difficult to know what to say, but I am of the strong opinion that you and I are so very alike, although we have different issues going on that may make us appear dis-similar in many ways.<br /><br />All I can say is that although 6,000 miles away, I am here for you. Maybe I can't do much, but I am told I am a good listener and at the very least I can do that for you. I like to think of myself as your friend even though we have never met - and friends are around through good times and bad, no matter what.<br />You are a truly wonderful person and I value our friendship greatly, so please if you need my help, I am here.<br /><br />Love you<br />Lou xxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-51293361655550768002011-11-28T08:46:20.959+00:002011-11-28T08:46:20.959+00:00Thanks Maxabella.
I've learned a lot reading ...Thanks Maxabella.<br /><br />I've learned a lot reading other peoples stories too.<br /><br />Maybe that's what prompted me to share mine.<br /><br />Is it therapeutic for me?<br /><br />Yes and no. <br /><br />Writing it down is but the sharing, I'm not so sure.<br /><br />This story more than any I've had doubts about.<br /><br />Does anyone else need to know?<br /><br />Do I WANT anyone else to know?<br /><br />If it helps anyone else then yes, of course it's worth it but I don't honestly know if it helps me.<br /><br />I wish I felt more positive about the sharing experience. After all, it was my choice.<br /><br />But I still have this urge to say 'this isn't me'!<br /><br />I'm lots of things. BDD is a small part of me that I will overcome. <br /><br />I would hate for anyone to look at me and see just that and forget everything else that I am.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04402703967636964187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-92137722731205603202011-11-28T04:23:58.313+00:002011-11-28T04:23:58.313+00:00I think you are wonderful for sharing this. I have...I think you are wonderful for sharing this. I have learned so much that I have never before encountered from reading blogs and especially a lot about the human spirit. Sharing seems so therapeutic for some. Do you find that writing for others means that you learn more about things yourself? I have found that. I hope writing this post led you to some discoveries about your BDD and its hold on you. You deserve to be happy and live the way you want to. I hope you get there, Sarah. xMaxabellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15761220164069379437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-42036819112273502102011-11-28T01:20:04.202+00:002011-11-28T01:20:04.202+00:00Thank you RCM - I am on the up.
To be honest (and...Thank you RCM - I am on the up.<br /><br />To be honest (and everyone is different) I think it's possible that things wouldn't have been quite so bad for me had I been brave enough to end it long before I did.<br /><br />I surprise myself sometimes with the things I've shared. It's not something that comes naturally to me and I hesitate a lot over it and worry that it's the wrong thing to do.<br /><br />I'm still undecided to be honest. <br /><br />I worry how peoples perception of me may change when they know that underneath the slightly scatty, anything can (and usually does) happen exterior there's a little bit of me that's fragile, just a little bit broken ...Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04402703967636964187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-37709934884753346942011-11-28T00:54:57.052+00:002011-11-28T00:54:57.052+00:00Similar to some of the others I don't really k...Similar to some of the others I don't really know what to say other than I read and think that you are brave to post. My relationship is shaky to say the least at the moment and I'm not sure what would happen if it all ended but like you I temd not to blog about such things - maybe one day. I'm glad to hear you seem to be on the up now and hope that it continues that way xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12213993125973550274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-44714274922623309612011-11-27T15:17:41.406+00:002011-11-27T15:17:41.406+00:00Everyone is different Laura so it's hard to kn...Everyone is different Laura so it's hard to know really.<br /><br />My problem is fairly recent and specifically related to an episode in my life that had a huge impact on me.<br /><br />I don't see myself as unattractive it's more about the way I feel.<br /><br />It's a very complicated issue. Many people have body issues but don't suffer from BDD. Equally, it's possible some people do but it hasn't been recognised.<br /><br />In my case there was a very significant link between my emotional well being and my physical health. Once that had been identified then my physical health started to improve.<br /><br />Talking about things is something I've always struggled with. I don't know if it helps me. <br /><br />There are times it leave me feeling very vulnerable and exposed but at the same time keeping things to yourself can be very lonely.<br /><br />BDD doesn't define my life and it is something I believe I can overcome in time and with the right person should they come along.<br /><br />Meanwhile I try to concentrate on the many good things in my life because I know, that in so many ways, I am very lucky.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04402703967636964187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-13332161280570161832011-11-26T21:17:45.068+00:002011-11-26T21:17:45.068+00:00As you now know, I grew up in an abusive family. I...As you now know, I grew up in an abusive family. I was always a very sickly child & I still get sick easily which is why I'm such a germ freak! LOL! I wonder if I could have something similar to your condition? I don't know - I just thought I had a crappy immune system! But I've always, always suffered from most severe depressions. Oh well.<br />Your symptoms sound very much like what my girlfriend suffers from. I was dumbfounded when she recently told me that she's never thought herself attractive. She also hates being touched. This girl is unbelievably GORGEOUS! I'm used to men always gaping at me & I take it for granted that I'm attractive - but when I'm with her, no one notices me - she's THAT beautiful! And she has NO CLUE!!! Wow! Her dad is schizophrenic & wasn't good to her. Not violent like my dad was, but more emotional/psycholgical abuse (which is along the lines of what I got from my mother).<br />Anyway, thanks for opening up & sharing. It's nice to know there's a "safe" place to go & "talk." It's a cardinal sin in my family to talk about this sort of thing! <br />:-/Germ Freak Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09094061456390298357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-84378093427094151842011-11-26T18:53:16.934+00:002011-11-26T18:53:16.934+00:00Thank you K :) xxx
Thanks Lesley - I knew the fir...Thank you K :) xxx<br /><br />Thanks Lesley - I knew the first relationship was too soon. <br /><br />The second - well, I thought it had a good chance.<br /><br />I know that right now isn't the right time for me however much I would like to be settled and to be able to see the future, however much I sometimes feel like I'm running out of time.<br /><br />But those aren't good reasons. <br /><br />Both the person and the timing have to be right and that will be when (or if) it will be. <br /><br />It surprises me just how long these things take. I kept saying (Del Boy style:) - this time next year Rodders.<br /><br />Well, here I am 2 years on ... Thanks for the link, I shall pop along :) x<br /><br />Thanks FC - mostly I'm not brave at all to be honest but I can put on a good front when I need to :) Hug gratefully received (as are they all :) xSarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04402703967636964187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-34412656872322388112011-11-26T17:58:10.221+00:002011-11-26T17:58:10.221+00:00You are incredibly brave, Sarah M.
I'm sendi...You are incredibly brave, Sarah M. <br /><br />I'm sending you a big squishy hug across the ocean.<br /><br />--FCA.K. Knighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16111102807271240215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-35413064237939143402011-11-26T17:28:15.877+00:002011-11-26T17:28:15.877+00:00Once again Sarah, without going into details here,...Once again Sarah, without going into details here, it seems we lead parallel lives and I think you are doing marvellously. Spend some time getting to know yourself and to like yourself without worrying about keeping someone new happy for a while. I hope I'm not overstepping the mark to say that your breakup was relatively recent and it sounds like it was incredibly traumatic and trauma takes a while to recover from. <br />Find ways to be good to yourself. Try this http://tornadofiles.blogspot.com/2011/03/how-to-cope-with-depression.html<br />It really helps xpamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12219309064660143026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-53918912285600211202011-11-26T16:14:32.567+00:002011-11-26T16:14:32.567+00:00I'm not entirelly sure what to say except: I h...I'm not entirelly sure what to say except: I here, I read and I'm with you XXXXAGuidingLifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05823333742737762759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-17980493085936977432011-11-26T13:48:23.548+00:002011-11-26T13:48:23.548+00:00I've often felt the same after reading a post ...I've often felt the same after reading a post Gemma so thank you, I know it can be a struggle to find words.<br />You are right though. This isn't all a tale of doom and gloom. This is a part of my life that is mostly over.<br /><br />The positives are that physically I'm doing ok.<br /><br />I know why and what the problem is which is a step to solving it.<br /><br />I did managed to overcome it at one point so it's possible I can again.<br /><br />If I can't, well, I don't know...<br />There are other things in my life.<br /><br />Thanks Melissa Jane - I have to say, this is the FIRST time I've talked about it at all so it may come as a bit of a surprise to anyone that actually knows me who reads this.<br /><br />I actually removed the post about half an hour after posting it and then reinstated it. For a long time (well, until now) it's kind of been my secret.<br /><br />It's pretty personal but I think people can often be unaware of the physical impact that emotional trauma can have.<br /><br />The events of my marriage breakup are no different to thousands of others and I have no idea why it should have had this particular kind of impact on me.<br /><br />Obviously I'm relived in some ways that the physical symptoms were caused largely by stress rather than the alternatives.<br /><br />Once I knew that was the case there started to be an almost immediate improvement.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04402703967636964187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-29843215646637085192011-11-26T11:49:21.591+00:002011-11-26T11:49:21.591+00:00I think it is important for you to talk about thes...I think it is important for you to talk about these things. Even if you are just getting them off your chest or trying to make sense of it by writing it down. This is a great place to do that, as WE have no place to make suggestions or criticise how you handle things.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11920864212300040383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1803854391640222787.post-47452265456659570782011-11-26T11:26:02.870+00:002011-11-26T11:26:02.870+00:00Im not sure I can say anything that doesn't so...Im not sure I can say anything that doesn't sound completely trite.<br />Personally, I think to have a perspective on your issues is the first huge step - you have that. It's a starting point. There is so so much of this post that shines out as positive. <br />Somethings take time but most things are fixable. <br />I really hope things more in the direction you want, in a way that makes you feel secure and safe and happy <br />XXXhelloitsgemmanoreply@blogger.com