He said he guessed that the girls he'd been out with liked the idea of him, liked the idea of his lifestyle but in the long run they really wanted something a little more stable and he just wasn't willing to compromise.
I get that. Had we become a couple all those years ago (and it must be almost 30 years since we met) then I might have felt the same.
I've always been drawn to his way of life, the beaches, the parties, the travel, the music events but I wanted a family, a home and a sense of belonging too and those were the things he couldn't, didn't want to provide and I suppose I sensed that and respected his very clear view on the way he wanted to live his life.
I'm so glad I did or we would have been over before we had even begun and there may have been no going back.
We came together at the right time for both of us so, while I'm a little sad that I missed so much of the fun I DID get my family and my house. The only thing missing was the sense of belonging and now, so many years later SD and I have that together and we both want what we have.
Some people may find out lifestyle too hectic. We rarely have a weekend without something planned and 'free' weekends and evenings are spend doing jobs either here or at the farm. We never just sit and watch the TV, in fact the TV is never turned on unless we have a film to watch. I guess we are both too restless, too conscious of the things we could be doing instead. Our downtime is spent sitting by the sea, walking the cliff paths or meeting up with friends.
It's right for us, it wouldn't suit everyone, I get that, this isn't a criticism of the way others lead their lives and I'm not suggesting that that our way is the right way. The right way is whatever makes you happy.
I'm just glad that the same things make us happy.
Well, I've gone a little off tangent. I really wanted to tell you about our weekend.
Last weekend we hitched up the buggy and headed for Swanage:
|Just setting off|
|37 of them in total!|
We are so fortunate to be invited back each year to open the carnival and, as an added bonus, the local football club let us camp on their land only 10 minutes walk from the seafront:
|I love this place!|
As well as it being the start of the Regatta it was also pirate weekend!
|So of course there was a pirate ship!|
|Plenty of pirates around ...|
|And there's nothing a beach buggy owner loves more than a chance to make a bit of noise and show off!|
The rest of the time was our own to:
|Pose in front of murals|
|look even sillier|
|Act VERY silly|
Every year we have a theme and most people dress up.
This year it was Sit Coms - which pretty much stumped everyone. It's not so much that it's hard to think of a Sit Com. it's just really hard to find a costume that people will recognise.
So it was changed to Hawaiian.
But not everyone got the memo ...
|So we had Dad's Army ...|
|Actually no idea on this one ...|
|Hi De Hi|
|And then the rest of us|
Oh, and we also had a Batman but somehow I didn't get a photo of him.
|it really was|
|an amazing weekend!|