Wednesday, 20 April 2011

As Chaka Khan would say – I Feel For You

This weeks rewind is a post from January 2011.

Well, I didn't start my blog until April BUT, it did start life as a diary on a dating website and extracts of this are from messages I had in January so I hope I'm not bending the rules too much by rewinding this one.


I would like to take credit for the title of this post but, it was in fact the heading on a message sent to me by my GBF (gay best friend).

Not everyone is as lucky as me to have an S in their lives but personally, I don't know what Id do without him.

He's funny, clever, thoughtful (and gives wicked parties). I was incredibly sad when he and his partner B of 32 years decided a few years ago to retire to the coast. Thank god for modern technology, we talk ALL the time. S is a fellow insomniac and we often chat into the wee hours (mostly about food for which we both have a passion).

Anyway, the point of mentioning S wasn't to boast about the fact that I have GBF or even that I seem to manage on very little sleep at times. The point is to say how lucky I am in my friends. Some women have shoes that fit every occasion, I have friends. I think I've got the best deal.

Friends may become a little worn and scuffed around the edges over time but they never go out of fashion and they're always a perfect fit.

I read about so many bad experiences on the dating websites in peoples diaries and thanks to S I managed to mostly avoid them myself. His advice was invaluable ranging from:

'bit hippy/dippy /Mills and Boon for me' to 'check the occupation, too fab by half' and also 'quite a sweetheart'.

I did have to question the latter as that was in response to my telling him that Id let somebody down gently and had the following message in return:

“thanks i quite appreciate your frankness and wish you well too,but in case you have a friend that might be interested in me let me know i don't mind coming to see the fellow”

I didn't run everything past S though, some people I could be quite sure of without a second opinion. The following are a couple of examples:

“'could you be my soil mate”

“'do you scuba dive and keep bees? If so, you are an enigma and possibly my ideal woman”.

'sudece my boby if you like whot you see...

heve you dan 3 same be 4 id couple?

While I may have laughed to myself at the content sometimes, Id never laugh at the person, life's hard enough without random strangers making fun of you, hell, I should know that! See 'Things'


Anonymous said...

Have to be honest and say that I met my wonderful husband to be through a dating site. I was beginning to think that I would never meet anyone except guys who were onlylooking for sex, but then just as all hope had been lost, in my baby walked and I have never looked back since.

I am looking forward to readind more of your blogging

Mrs Catch said...

Some of those guys sound positively medieval. Glad you've your GBF to help.

MultipleMum said...

I can happily say that I have never done the online dating thing. More reasons to make it work with my hubby (or get a GBF!). Thanks for Rewinding - always good for a laugh Sarah! x

Sarah Mac said...

Some were very bizarre Mrc C :)

Thanks MM x